Her Need, His Need: Sex & Affection
Kate rolls over and snuggles up against John, sinking into the delight of his warm skin, smelling his musky odor, and pressing her lips against his back. He feels her presence, and rolls over to greet her mouth, and press a hand against her womanhood. She pulls away, frustrated that she can’t have affection without it “turning into” sex. He pulls back, wondering what he did wrong, this time.
Familiar?
Her Need, His Need
Kate says she wants and needs affection on a regular basis. Too much sex without affection, and she feels depleted and “used.” When she has regular affection (inside and outside the bedroom), she feels more sexual.
John prioritizes sex first. For him, it awakens his connection to his partner. And without it, he feels frustrated and “strung-along.” When has regular sex, he naturally feels more affectionate, without even thinking about it.
But here’s the problem [Read more →]
