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The Politics of Irrational Terror

Kismayu, Somalia:  Aisha Ibrahim Duhulow was a 13-year old Somali girl.  A few weeks ago, she was raped, and made the deadly mistake of reporting the crime.  The Islamic court ruled that her report amounted to a confession of adultery, and ordered her executed.  She was dragged in front of 1000 people and buried up to her neck.  Then she was stoned by 50 rock throwers, until she mercifully died.  Anyone who tried to intervene was fired upon, including an 8 year old boy who was shot dead.

Boulder, CO, USA, Hallowe’en 2008:  150 revelers ran through the streets of Boulder.  The runners were naked, except for shoes on their feet and pumpkins over their heads.   There’s no doubt:  boobs bounced, dicks dangled, and fat flopped.  12 were arrested.  And they may be forced to register as sex offenders.  In this country, this is one of the worst stigma possible, as friends and neighbours assume you’re the most dangerous villain out there, and shield their kids from you.

We’re Not That Different …

While these are two very different stories, they both illustrate the irrationality of our terror around sex.

It’s easy to say that the Somali girl was in another culture, one which is so terrified sexuality that it will blame and kill a girl for being raped.

But our culture is irrationally petrified too, and we’re also guilty of letting our discomfort decide our laws, instead of dealing with the emotions themselves.   With the pumpkin-runners, the only harm done is perhaps some discomfort on the part of the viewers.  We’re talking about ridiculous punishments to retaliate for a little angst.

Couldn’t we deal with our own feelings and those of our culture, and have a rational justice system?

Survey - What Do You Want?

I hate to admit this, but I’ve been working on creating classes for way too long, and not delivering.

Why?

Because I have been doubting that what I created is what you, my dear reader, really wanted.

So maybe - just maybe - it’s time to ask. (Hmmm ….)

I’ve created a survey, that takes less than 5 minutes to complete.

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Pleasure And Productivity

What is the value of pleasure?

Our culture trains us to see pleasure as a bonus part of life.  Something we get only if we suffer enough to earn it.

But what if delaying pleasure is what keeps us from getting things done?

I had a powerful experience of this when I started my company, Wild Wiggle.

It was a big project:  launching WW in just a few weeks, while at a training program for most of the time.  Far too much to do, too little time.

I scheduled my days, hour by hour.  Cancelled all activities that didn’t contribute directly to my goal.  And Focused.

It worked great for several days, but then I tanked. [Read more →]