Courage to Date Again
I got this question in my email box recently: after a bad breakup, how do I find the courage to get out and date again?
If you’re going on dates with an attitude that it’s going to go wrong, you’re headed for trouble.
First things first: love your life now, as a single. If you’re unhappy as a single, you’ll settle for anyone who crosses your path, which sets yourself up for failure. Ever found yourself over-compromising? You can probably chalk that up to illusion that you “needed” your mate, or that life would be worse alone. Ever decide to hang out with someone, just to fill the void? Ugh - it’s a sure-fire recipe to slip into a relationship that’s just never right - and to be unavailable when a great potential mate does show up.
When you’re happy with how things are now, you become discerning, and make your time available only to people who are a great potential fit. Further, it makes you more confident, and you’ll be more attractive to high-quality partners.
Got a question about Love or Pleasure? Send it my way! Can’t promise I’ll answer everything. But if it’s a good fit for this column, I’ll include it.
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